2016-03-30 Mengbao life help for pregnant mothers
Whenever we talk about the topic of peeing, there will be two distinct teams who "resolutely oppose the pee group" and "resolutely support the pee group." I believe many new parents are not aware of this problem.
I believe that most of the babies who are urinated must have an old man who thinks they are experienced. He thinks that when you were young, when your dad was young, and when she was young...Where can you walk around in diapers? How embarrassing it is to let relatives and friends see...So many elderly people even start to "hush" from the moment your baby is born ~ and cheers with the success of peeing.
Whether or not to pee depends entirely on the baby's parents, not the baby's grandmother or mother-in-law.
At present, the "anti-paiting" faction believes that the harm of taking the urine is as follows:
1. It's not good for baby's spine
2. The baby's sphincter is not good, so that the baby may not urinate by itself, and will hold back urine if it does not.
3. The baby's psychology is not good, you think, I was playing well, but I was suddenly picked up to urinate, and there are so many accompaniments, is it comfortable? Are you afraid?
4. Easy to cause hemorrhoids and prolapse
5. Disrespect to children.
★ Can urine be used to train children to control their bowel movements?
The baby's urethral sphincter and anal sphincter do not fully mature until about 3 years old. This is the physiological basis for human control of urination. Prior to this, the child was unable to fully control bowel movements and urination.
Especially before 1 year old, it is not so much to train the child to urinate, but to train the parents to find the time when the child is easier to urinate, such as 5-15 minutes after breastfeeding and after waking up. This is relatively successful urination training.
Failed urination training abounds before 1 year old. The consequence is that the child does not know how to urinate according to the bowel movement, but only knows that the action is taken to reflex urination. For example, many parents often hear complaints that their children cannot sleep peacefully at night, and they have to pour urine before they can go to sleep. They don't even do not urinate during the day. They only know that they cry because of holding back their urine.
After 1 year old, children begin to have a little ability to control their urination, but it is not perfect. This is the same reason that the elderly cannot control their bowel movements. Many parents demand that their children do not pee when they pee, or pee by themselves when they do not pee, they will blame the child, and even use the method of beating and scolding to ask the child to tell the parent before peeing. Such parents, when they are old and cannot control their own bowel movements, pray that your children will not scold you for this.
★ If you do not pee, your child will learn to urinate autonomously earlier.
In the actual consultation, it was found that many children who wear diapers to sleep at night can control nocturia around the age of 2 or even earlier, or hold back urine all night until morning. And most of the children who urinate at night need to bother their parents to get up in the middle of the night to urinate when they are 2 years old.
Children who do not urinate usually start to take the initiative to urinate earlier, use the urinal or squat to urinate earlier.
This is because children who do not urinate have always urinated according to their bowels, so they have a better grasp of bowels. Children who urinate too much are always confused between urinating according to their intentions and urinating according to their movements, and they have a poor grasp of their intentions.
★ How about using diapers?
The biggest problem with diapers is that they are not environmentally friendly. Because the water-absorbing ingredients are not degradable. In addition, wearing diapers is not as comfortable as having a bare bottom. Apart from that, there are no other problems. Many problems with diapers in the legend are fallacies, even ridiculous fallacies. Mom can use it with confidence.
It is also recommended that mothers put on diapers at least when the baby is sleeping, so that the baby can sleep better and the mother can rest better.
★ Economical and comfortable choice of "diapers + diapers"
Day diapers + diapers at night and when going out, this is the choice of many mothers. First, it is more economical, second, the baby is cooler in summer, and third, it can avoid too much conflict with family members who oppose the use of diapers.
★ My baby hates diapers, what should I do?
Many babies hate wearing diapers from seven to eight months. So many mothers simply wear pants for their children during the day, and change to a clean one when they wet. Seven or eight pairs of pants a day are enough, and they are washed together in the washing machine at night without fatigue. If you are afraid that your baby will use the bed and sofa without wearing a diaper, you can put a large changing mat when the baby is sitting and playing, or simply put a large changing mat on the sofa and bed during the day. It is very convenient to buy a changing mat nowadays. It only costs tens of yuan for a one-square-meter changing mat with fine fleece on both sides. You can't buy it at maternity and infant stores, but you can buy it on Taobao. There are many choices of styles and patterns.
★ Really effective urination training
Babies are about 1 and a half years old, and many mothers find that they can sometimes tell their babies in advance before peeing. This means that mothers can start doing simple and basic urination training. (Of course, if you continue to wear diapers for your baby, it is perfectly fine to wait until the age of 2 to start training, and the baby will learn faster.)
It is a good choice to prepare a cute potty. A convenient and cute urinal will make the baby more willing to look for the urinal when there is urine, or tell an adult. It will also allow the baby to slowly learn to take off his pants and lift his pants, learn to control his accurate sitting on the urinal, and the skills of not urinating outside. The improvement of these abilities will also enhance the baby's self-confidence. (If you are still urinating at this time, or even scold your baby for not cooperating or not telling you to urinate in advance, what can your baby learn?)
There are many kinds of urinals sold on the market, including straddle-sit and backrest. The mother can choose according to the baby's hobbies. If you don't like it, try another.
Many mothers find that taking their babies to the bathroom and letting them learn to squat and pee is also a very effective way.
Many fathers abroad, when helping two or three-year-old boys learn to pee, they will take the baby to the urinal or small toilet, or put a footstool next to the toilet, throw a wheat ring into the water, and let the boy aim at the wheat ring "Fire." Such active guidance is a good idea for parents to train their children for urination.
Another widely applicable method is to let children come in to "watch" when adults go to the toilet. Children learn from imitation, and especially like to imitate the practices of adults, and feel that they are very powerful. Tell the baby, "Mom wants to pee, go to the toilet, sit on the toilet, then pee, then get up and lift the pants, then flush." Many babies like to use the toilet just because they like to flush.
★ Protect the little butt
The troubles of petty ass, one is urine soaking, and the other is trauma.
Whether you are using diapers or diapers, you must change frequently, wash your ass frequently, and use diaper cream or sesame oil to protect your buttock skin when necessary. Set aside time for the little butt to bask in the sun and ventilate.
If you don’t wear diapers or diapers, please try to wear closed crotch pants instead of open crotch pants, regardless of male or female. This can protect the child's ass from being contaminated by dirt and bacteria, and it can also reduce the possibility of scratching and scratching of the boy's chicken. Some mothers complain that they often wet their pants when wearing closed crotch pants. Isn’t it actually just washing a few more pants? Just prepare five, six, seven or eight. It is very convenient to have water once at night, wash away most of the urine and throw it into the washing machine.
★ The following are the famous opinions:
@Our favorite Grandpa Sears (from Sears Parenting Scripture)-training later is better than training early.
Today’s parents no longer have to feel stressful because they have to train their children to go to the toilet early. The era of taking toilet training as a sign of good parents is over. In those days, the earlier the child ate three meals a day, the earlier weaned, the earlier he went to the bathroom alone, and the earlier independent mothers were "competent". It's no wonder that the previous diapers were washed and dried by hand. Of course, parents hope that the baby learns to use the toilet as soon as possible.
The muscles that control excretion mature when most babies are 18 to 24 months old. There is another reason to support late training: Babies who receive training later learn faster than those who receive training earlier.
@崔玉涛——It is unscientific to say that paper diapers (diapers, diapers) affect the development of children's genitals.
Many countries have used it for decades and have not found similar problems. It is the traditional way of "handling urine" or "handling stool", which is likely to cause infant prolapse and cause hemorrhoids. The high incidence of hemorrhoids in humans has a certain relationship with the acceptance of "handling urine" and "handling stool" in childhood.
Children bring diapers not to save trouble for adults, the key is not to cause adverse stimulation to children. When the child feels uncomfortable to urinate or defecate in the diaper after the child is 2 years old, parents should take the child to the toilet according to the situation, so that the child will form a relationship between defecation and the toilet, and will soon establish normal defecation habits. In order to save trouble, lazy parents will make their children overly dependent on diapers.
There is no conflict between using diapers and training children to defecate. Training to defecate does not mean defecation. The prerequisites for children to receive bowel training are:
1. Can feel uncomfortable with defecation;
2. Make contact with toilet bowl and defecation;
3. The child has the ability to use the toilet.
Children who can accept these premises should be no earlier than 1 year old. It is generally appropriate to start sitting and going to the toilet at the age of 1 and a half.
@妈咪Jane Parenting Magic Recipe-I am opposed to forcibly peeing the baby.
Babies, especially newborn babies within 6 months of age, have not been able to control their own bowel movements. Even if the mother gives the baby the urine, he does not understand what he is doing. Sometimes the baby urinates when it is conditioned, sometimes because of peeing. The bowel movement is already frequent, and it is not that the baby can really control the pooping and peeing.
Secondly, I am opposed to forcibly peeing the baby.
When the baby can't get the urine out, and the baby is already twisted or even distressed, some mothers persist in carrying the urine to the end, regardless of the baby's feelings. I firmly oppose such simple and rude behavior that does not respect the baby. Forcing the baby and disrespecting the baby can easily become a habit. For example, forced eating is also a big problem. Once parents and the elderly develop this parent-child model, many problems in the child's growth process will become more and more difficult to deal with.
On the contrary, if parents follow the child’s growth and growth law, between 18 months and 2 years old, when the child’s mental development is mature and the expression ability is still good, and then use a better interactive communication method to train the toilet, it will be twice the result with half the effort , The feeling of being still happier.
Some mothers pass the crotch pants to the baby, which is even more undesirable...
Some will say that diapers are very hot and can easily cause red ass. In fact, choosing a good brand of diapers is very soft and comfortable. In summer, regardless of whether the baby wears diapers or not, he should not be allowed to live in an extremely hot environment. Keep the room temperature at about 25 degrees. Proper use of air conditioning is good.
In addition, the baby in diapers needs to be carefully taken care of by the mother. Changing frequently, applying diaper cream and waiting, can effectively prevent the occurrence of red ass. Whether or not to pee depends entirely on the baby's parents, not the baby's grandmother or mother-in-law.
When you feel that what anyone has done to your baby is not correct, scientific, or may even hurt him, you should ask for rejection.
★ Some people may say, our family is all right, is it all right?
Excuse me: Do you have frequent urination, urgency, burning, or urination? Do you sleep at night and get up at night? Is it uncomfortable not to urinate before going to bed? Not comfortable without urinating before going out? After going out, I often wonder where is the toilet? Always feel like peeing before exams in school? Now I still suffer from constipation, hemorrhoids! ? Maybe the time is not here. If you have two of the above symptoms, congratulations! You were pissed when you were a kid!
Ten people in China have nine hemorrhoids. Why do many men always have prostate problems? That is caused by unstable bladder function. The detrusor muscle cannot contract spontaneously, causing frequent urination, urgency, and enuresis, referred to as urinary incontinence! The bladder function is unstable. Do you know why? Infant urethral sphincter damage!
Many people have constipation, hemorrhoids, anal fissures, damaged anal sphincter muscles, and anorectal rings that do not have enough control over stool! Prolapse is a small problem! But wait for incontinence when you are old!
The harm is not immediate. Many countries now advocate scientific parenting, which shows the general trend. Moreover, the baby is not a guinea pig, and would rather "do nothing" than bury hidden health risks! May our babies be happy and healthy!